I woke up this morning with a phrase spinning around my head, the phrase was “Best Friend with Caveats”. It’s wierd I don’t know if I dremt it or how it popped into my head but all day I’ve been mulling over the concept, trying to figure out what this implies.
Everyone knows the term “Best Friend with Benefits” the implication being a friendship that allows you priveliges that even a best friend would not get, usually used to mean sex.
But what is a best friend with caveats?
You can really read it in one of several ways:
You are a best friend but there are certain aspects of “best friendship” which you don’t adhere to.
Maybe you are a best friend who refuses to acknowledge a partner, or who takes great pleasure in putting your friend down. Maybe you will stand by your friend through thick and thin except when it relates to one particular thing.
I’m your best friend but there are certain aspects of best friendship that I Don’t adhere to.
As above but it’s the other wy round the caveats are one my friendship to you, there are certain circumstances in which I will just abandon you, or worse still take the other side. One such caveat might be that I am your best friend but my significant other takes precedence over you, or I’ll be your best friend so long as I’m Sober, when I’m drunk however I want nothing to do with you.
We are both bet friends but we both accept that there are limitations to our friendship.
We both agree or at least acknowledge the fact that there are certain circumstances in which we may not acto towards each other as friends. The circumstances could be shared, or each of the two friends could have there on set of particular circumstances in which they refuse to act like a best friend.
The latter of these two is just really an amalgumation of the first two reading, you just both do it in different ways. The former however could lead to some interesting social situations, where two people are the greatest of friends but hate each other when they are drunk, out on the town, pursueing someone. I’m sure there are better examples.
I don’t really have a conclusion, I’ve wanted to write a blog post for ages and I decided to stretch this four word phrase which I though had interesting connotations into a whoel blog post.
I also thought I’d be the first person to mentions it, as it doesn’t seem to be in any of the hits for the phrase in google.
Are you “Best Friends with Caveats” with anyone? If so you can tell me how in the comments.